conversations for couples
As a human species are wired for connection and emotional dependency and acknowledgement of our emotional inter-connectedness is crucial to healthy functioning. Our intimate relationships are often our most treasured, yet through fears of loss, abandonment or rejection we paradoxically end up engaging in unconscious behaviours which place strain on our emotional connections.
In working with couples, my role is two-fold: Firstly I hold and create the space making it safe to start expressing and exposing those vulnerable sides of yourself to your partner. The space to make difficult and threatening conversations possible. Then, drawing on a variety of modalities, skills and experience I bring a level of enquiry and exploration into what aspects of yourself are being potentially marginalized in your attempts to try and keep your relationships safe: What fears are holding you back in your particular relationship dynamic? What is not being said but being felt?
We explore Your Relationship Dream and create Your Relationship Map – What is your vision for your union together? What are your relationship values? Where are you now, Where are you going, and how are you going to get there?
Structured Coaching Programs
Over the course of 6 weeks or 12 weeks I offer structured coaching programs designed for couples to take you on a journey of creating clarity, understanding, compassion and connection in your relationship.
Book a FREE no obligation introductory session with me to discover more:
We Have To Talk: 12 Session Program for Couples
1. Assessing the Terrain
Discover your personal destination point in your relationship – What are the priority areas of focus to create balance and fulfillment for you?
2. Clear Communication
Exploring the impact and value of clear communication in your relationship and what gets in the way. Experience connecting through presence.
3. Jumping the Curve
The couple that grows together stays together. Looking at how to grow by stepping out of your comfort zone and moving beyond fear in manageable ways.
4. Respect for Each Other’s Needs
Discover how to articulate and express feelings to uncover your primary emotional needs. Engage in a simple and practical exercise to discover happiness, increase self-esteem and reduce your stress.
5 & 6. Seeing the Other in You
(Two Individual Sessions) Identify the “blame game” and take back your personal power by engaging in a practical exercise to identify marginalized parts of you.
7. Mid-Point Assessment
Mid-Point check-in to provide space to reflect and integrate what has been discovered thus far and what else is emerging.
8. From Victim to Victor – Exploring Power
Taking ownership of your power in the relationship and moving towards Power Sharing. Receive a practical tool to move from Victim to Victor in all areas to alleviate frustration, resentment and resignation.
9. Discovering the Dance
Identify your unique relationship dynamic dance and create constructive steps towards conflict management as well as reaching for conscious connection.
10. Validating Each Other’s Experiences
Moving from Duality to embracing Zero Duality by moving from either/or thinking to both/and perspectives. Engage in a practical dialogue to move beyond mind-reading to agreed consensus, bringing a sense of freedom and clarity.
11. Painting the Vision
Finding the WE. Create your personal vision and mission of your union and gaining clarity on what you are creating and moving towards together. The future is NOW.
12. Reflection and Integration
Appreciating yourselves and your partner on this journey that you have taken. Reflecting on the new tools and awareness’s to take with you as your continue this journey together.
Optional Add On: Exploring Physical Intimacy
Explore intimacy and pleasure in the context of your relationship. Receive new insights and exercises to take your love-making to the next level! Explore pleasure beyond the orgasm…